Ebook Blessings to Lessons Reflections of a church girl Evie Hampton 9781722106058 Books

Product details Paperback 68 pages Publisher CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform (July 6, 2018) Language English ISBN-10 1722106050

Blessings to Lessons Reflections of a church girl Evie Hampton 9781722106058 Books Reviews

• It’s often said to “never judge a book by its cover” and I’m so happy I didn’t. Evie Hampton pours her heart out as she opens up about her strong loyalty to her Church & Family and how this loyalty becomes a contradiction while trying to figure out “who she was” and “what she wanted” in her life. The author goes on to reveal how making her own life decisions started to impact her relationship with family members, particularly her Mother. As I read the authors descriptions of her Mother’s disapproval on some of her decisions; I can’t help but to think how we all can relate to a parent’s disapproval at some point in our lives.
  
  I appreciated the way Evie reveals her observation of her past intimate and personal relationships and how her thought process during that time affected her thought process in her present relationships. She even speaks on the perception of those relationships growing up in church and even opinions from family members and its impact on her behavior. She accept the fact that how she was raised had influenced her behavior and thoughts in her marriage. She did a great job explaining how our perception have power in creating expectations not only for ourselves but for those in our lives, sometimes to the point in which we expect others to know what’s expected without even communicating it.
  
  She gradually becomes aware that her expectations of others may have been unrealistic to some degree and begins to question why certain discomforts of “Life” weren’t mentioned throughout her many lessons from Church or Family. However maybe its not Church or Family, maybe it was her need for approval all along. Something we all go through in the process of becoming adults Is it more important to be accepted from others vs Evolving into Independent Thinkers?
  
  I appreciate the Author’s openness as she reveals the truth to readers about her life, family, church and marriage. She even goes on to reveal her resentment towards some of her family members for not being as supportive as she would have “expected” when she decided to married the man of her life. Yet at the same time, she takes accountability for providing a certain “perception” of her new husband to her family early on, which may have led to their distaste for him.
  
  You see, from the beginning, the author describes her relationship with the man she marries as a dependent one. Eventually she becomes aware how she (herself) had contributed towards this dependent behavior to a certain degree before they were even married. . At the same time we live our lives with these expectations and remember expectations leads to roles in relationships and when roles aren’t being played by whom & how we expect them to, ultimately we become disappointed.
  
  When she becomes disappointed, particularly with her husband for not maintaining a certain role as her husband, her resentment grows which leads to challenges within her marriage. When she decides to take away a very “important need” from her husband - “SEX”, things go sour. Can a marriage survive without sex? Interesting enough, throughout the book, one important element that remain constant was her (and husband’s) Faith and belief that GOD would not allow them to fail.
  
  Through self analysis and faith, she finally comes to understands that her blessings were always preparing her for every lesson she encountered in life. She was alive, she had a voice and she could do anything, even save her marriage if she (and her husband) put in the work to do so. Her Blessings and her Lessons had created the woman that stands before you today. She just needed to embrace it. Once she was able to change her perspective and embrace herself as a woman, she begin to walk in her own light - finally accepting how BLESSED she was from the very start.
  
  Good Read!